It can be tough, and sometimes lonely, to be the new kid in town. We've all been there. Maybe you remember walking nervously into your first day of kindergarten. Or what about that first awkward day on campus as a college freshmen? Maybe for you, it's easier to remember your first day at a new job or first Sunday at a new church or first family dinner at your in-law's place. Lately, the big transition in my life that has stirred up all these emotions of confusion, loneliness and sometimes frustration, has been our move to Michigan. Some of you can identify, I'm sure, with the feeling of moving into a new town and not knowing where to go grocery shopping, where to find the Post Office, where to get the cheapest gas, which OB doctor should I go to, where is a safe place to go on a walk, where should I go to church, where is the emergency room...and the list goes on and on.
It is difficult to move away from all that you know so well and knowingly place yourself in a new situation, especially when you're making that decision for not only yourself, but for your whole family. It is a time of stretching yourself: to be social in situations that may typically make you uncomfortable, to reach out and ask for help when you need it, to TRUST GOD, above all, to help you and to give you just what you need when you need it. That's really what it's all about, learning that no matter where you are, God is still present and will provide the answers, friends or help that you need.
While I have been here in Rockford, I have seen God provide me with the help I have needed. A fellow missionary who works in the CBM office offered to take me around the area and show me how to get to all the important places and anywhere else I might need. That day she showed me where to go grocery shopping, where to fill up our gas tank, where to go to shop thrift stores, where to go to get my Panera Bread fix, where to send out our mail (since we don't have a mailbox), etc. That was such a helpful day!
God also led our family to a church that has been such a blessing to us. We love the church body and the teaching we receive there. We are looking for opportunities to serve in the church since it now looks like we will be here in the Rockford area for awhile, at least until the baby comes at the end of the year. It's always important to have friends--helps combat the loneliness--and God has been prodding the ladies of the church to include me in their outings and parties, and for that I am so thankful! We also had some friends from our home church in Iowa move (permanently) just an hour away from us, near Kalamazoo, MI. We have already gotten together with their family once and will do so again later this month. Just having them near makes leaving "home" in Iowa not so hard.
Now, I realize some of you might be thinking, "Won't this be a way of life for you, Elizabeth? You'll be moving most every year! You better get used to the moving and settling in process!" If you were thinking this, then you would be right--believe me, it is a thought that hasn't escaped me. While part of me does not look forward to this constant "settling in" feeling, a couple things have brought me comfort as I have thought about this fact:
1. Lord willing, this is not a typical building project. Hopefully in our future building projects, we will have the company of other builders, other families to help us adjust to our new roles and new surroundings. While we are so happy to have a place to serve right now, it can get lonely parked all by ourselves in the CBM back parking lot. Also, since we will be serving at churches in the future, the task of picking out a church will not be ours to do. The church will already be chosen for us as we work on their building construction needs and also attend their services and serve as the Lord should lead.
2. Hopefully this will get easier with time. This is the first time we have totally moved away from home. There have been other times we have moved for deputation purposes (think last year when we moved to Pennsylvania for 4 months), but we always went back to Iowa. This time we packed up everything and whatever we didn't take with us, we sold off or gave away. The first time is always the hardest, right?? Hopefully this process will get easier and more normal each time we do it.
3. HOPEFULLY (!) I won't be starting off each building project newly pregnant! I think that has been the most stretching part of this whole process for me! Right away I had to find a new OB doctor, a new OB specialist, a new pharmacy and most of all, start my restricted activity routine. Since I was on restricted activity, I couldn't do day outings with Judah by myself, Andy is always needed to be with us to help lift Judah. So what does that mean for Judah and me? All day in or around our trailer! Yay! (said sarcastically). It has been an opportunity for God to show me His design and plan for my life right now. It won't always be like this (thankfully), but right now it is, and I have been learning to be content with the plan God has given me.
So, I guess my challenge to you who are reading this is to remember how you have felt in new situations. Remember that anxious, nervous, lonely, maybe even sick feeling? That isn't pleasant. If you are feeling that way right now with me, hold on! Look for God's provision of the things you need. Pray about everything! Now think about those around you...is there anyone in your life that God is showing you who may be at the point where I am--trying to fit in, trying to find their role. Maybe it is the new co-worker that you have to train, maybe it's the new person in your church or Bible study, maybe it's a newly married-in member of your family. For my sake, reach out to that person, just say "Hi", or offer your service in some way, or invite them to something you are doing. It's really not a big deal, but it will be to the person who is new.
I'm so glad people reached out to me. I hope I can be counted on to make someone feel welcome the next time I'm given the opportunity.